The radio today had an interesting bit interview with some teenagers and freshly-turned adults about marrying at an early age. The RJ inquired their views of getting married at 18. What is that like? Is it like you have no goals in life, or is it because you just can't wait?
One of them said, for people who're not career-oriented and who want to settle in a family life quick, marrying early is a good option. Another said, she would prefer her career over getting married anyday, as she has worked so hard to come this far, and doesn't want to give it all up because of marriage.
At some point in the interview, the topic changed from marriage to career goals, and I turned it off. Retrospective time indeed. I got married when I was 18, and I don't agree it is even remotely related to your career goals in life or your need to settle down fast. People find it funny and they often question on the hilarity of it all - you could've done so much in your life, but why did you give it up and gotten married.
We have interpreted marriage as an inconclusive end to all our dreams and goals. It is a dead-end for some people, from where the only way ahead is having babies and settling down. I shake my head at their viewpoints, I feel bad for those who haven't been able to understand the meaning of a committment such as marriage. For me, marriage is about making a choice and sticking to it.
My dreams are still mine and my goals are still alive - and each day I get a step closer to them and my husband shares my happiness in the same. If I can stand strong on what I want from my life, the rest of it would follow - it is a belief that I have learnt from so far.
An old schoolmate once asked me - whats wrong with you!? Why did you get married at 18.
Well, my dear ignorant soul - the sooner you start to spend the rest of your life with the love of your life, the better...
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Marriage at 18 - What a Scene!
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I will comment on this piece. You are an old soul given wisdom beyond your few years, blessed as others are not; to mature in grace and strength. A quick mind and warm heart do afford you understanding of the heart, mind and spirit. Sharing life with the one who loves you and encourages you to do your best helps you achieve the self imposed life goals. It is called balance. A student is not just a student; but a daughter or son, friend, competitor, explorer, helper and the list goes on. We wear many hats each day which enrich our lives. We are not restricted to a single role in life as just a daughter or just a wife or just a career person. Clear vision of our individual perception of what life is to each of us affords balance and happiness with the choices we live with. The order of their importance in our lives is the pendulum of perceived happiness or discontentment. Clearly knowing what you expect from life and committing to achieving this goal is what makes happy families, contented marriages and career success. I applaud your precepts of what love brings to the individual spirit. It is as water to the thirst.
made cooler by Ann on February 6, 2007 9:17 PM
Totally damn awesome post. Blown away, by the clarity you have and the faith with which you stick to it.
Somewhere inside, i think, how much part has luck has had in you being so blissfully happy? Excuse for me to shift responsiblity to lady luck; yeah i am getting to know myself.
Cheers
Hemant
made cooler by Hemant Kumar on May 17, 2007 12:11 PM
You are crazy! I would never get married at that young age you are to young and immature to make a commitment like that!hun makng a commitment like that does get in the way of your goals and dreams! you have to support your family go to colledge or you will be taking orders at McDonalds for the rest of your life!
made cooler by emily daves on October 5, 2007 3:54 AM