Weddings are a boon for the wedding arrangers.
The groom/bride are too tired and irritated to enjoy the wedding - considering all the artificiality that creeps in and the forever long conversations they have to make with all sorts of people.
The parents of the groom/bride are too tensed to enjoy the wedding - considering they have to take care of all the arrangements and are the primary targets for queries and botherations.
The relatives are all quite agitated to actually enjoy the wedding - considering the long distances they have to travel, the expenditure they have to do on clothing and most of all, giving money and gifts to the bride/groom - a burden on their pockets, practically speaking.
The friends are too oblivious to enjoy the wedding - considering they're asked to do favours by people they don't even know and are expected to take care of the timidest of requests by those who tend to climb on other's heads.
So, like I said - the only people who end up being happy are the ones with the green bucks - the ones who arrange the grand ceremony - which apparently, no one enjoys.
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I would really love to be the green buck guy, well my wildest fantasy is getting married on a Ship and the ban playing my heart will go on... No sinking for sure...
made cooler by The Geek on January 13, 2004 7:07 PM
Mine would be getting married in a church - in Hawaii! Not with a phirang though :P
made cooler by Lime on January 13, 2004 7:29 PM
You said it. But at least the food is good. That's the best part about marriages in India. If Indian marriages didn't offer a meal after the ceremony, no one would have gone there in the first place. It's true. Really. Why else should they go? To give the bride and groom blessings? Rubbish. They just wanna feast their hell out on that double cheese cake!
The Church type, ones are truly, what can be called marriages. But won't that be a little too boring for the ones at the church, waiting till they last minute when she says 'I do'.
Who cares, I dont like the whole idea of marriages at all. Especially in India. Grandparents are crazy to get their 'pota' and 'poti' married off till say good-bye to this world. Why does everyone have to marry? Why can't loners be given the least bit of respect in this country? They're always looked down upon, as people with different 'view of life' who just 'don't fit in'. Crap. No time for all that right now though. It's still several years till I even graduate. :)
made cooler by Rohit on January 14, 2004 11:33 AM
Wedding's are ought to be enjoyed - but no one seldom does, but with the coming up of Wedding Planners things are much better, giving a chance to Family/relatives/friends actually enjoy the weddings - but the down side is - it costs a fortune.
Rohit: Even about 95% of church weddings(world wide) are followed up by reception(s). Weddings is a expensive affair the world over.
made cooler by Preet Chandhoke on January 14, 2004 2:25 PM
Hmm..I have a lot of preferences for weddings..but definitely know that I'll do all the work myself and will have small scale one with only near and dear ones. Luckily, I know myself and know that I'll get married late so have a long way off to carefully plan the nitty gritties.
made cooler by Amrita on January 14, 2004 6:10 PM
Rohit: I don't like attending weddings much, unless its someone close and I actually feel happy to be a part of the occassion. Otherwise its just formality - and going just for kicks is so pointless - troubling other people to attend you, as well as troubling yourself to go through the trouble.
Oh and church weddings are the most romantic ones. You pledge your own pledges in front of everyone you know and its such an emotional ceremony that everyone breaks into tears. And I agree with Preet - the receptions are so grand and ceremonious.. it must be such a joy to be a part of a wedding as such - people making toasts and everything.
Marriage has different meanings for different people. If we're talking of commitment with a single person for your entire life - why not? If we're talking of favours done to grandparents to fulfil last wishes - why? So it all depends on the basic perceptions.
Preet: Yea, a huge fortune - but then again, there is so much fortune being burnt to ashes anyway, another fraction here or there at that moment doesn't matter as much I guess. But the efficiency here is so low, that eventually tensions will prevail, regardless of shifting responsibilities or not.. at least thats what I reckon.
Amrita: My sentiments exactly - small scale and personalized. Something worth remembering for a lifetime - if not for 'other people', then at least for your own self. Kudos to that thought! Oye.. and congrats for the VAIO once again! You lucky girl you...
made cooler by Lime on January 14, 2004 9:54 PM